Sunday, September 8, 2013
I Can’t Miss You If You Don’t Go Away: Time to Set Boundaries
It’s true for both men and women. If the other person doesn’t go a way, you can’t miss him or her. Everyone needs space, and if the person you’re with can’t understand that, it might be time for you to set boundaries – or just get your own apartment.
(Some Of) My Personal Pet Peeves
I absolutely hate it when someone needs to cuddle for more than 15 minutes before falling asleep. I also hate being groped while trying to sleep. Sometimes I’d get up and go in the other room just so I can get the rest I need. I have a business to run. I can’t handle overly-needy people right now.
I also can’t stand the guilt trips I get if I don’t go to bed at the same time as the other person. Either that or if I don’t call back right away after the person called me four times. Now, I should say when I really need to get a hold of someone I might call them several times, but that’s only in extreme situations. Under ordinary circumstances – when it’s just to say “hi,” I don’t flip out.
I respect the fact that people are busy. Therefore, they should respect the fact that so am I. I hate being the bad person, but sometimes I need space. That’s why I set boundaries with people. Sometimes I have to just say not to them, or in this case no to the one I was supposed to be in a relationship with.