Men, if you are going to tell women all the sweet little declarations of love that all women want to hear, they have a right to know about you. They have a right to know what unresolved issues you have with your ex or whether or not you know your children are yours, or whether or not you are in court for a custody battle.
Get that stuff taken care of. Then try to suck a women into your little web. Before that, leave them alone. (I know sometimes people look for someone for just sex and then it leads to more, and that’s part of the problem. Still, leave women alone until you got your act together please!)
If you do choose to get involved with a woman before certain child and ex issues are resolved, at least tell her what is going on. She has a right to know!