I’ve had two people that I either dated or was currently dating that said I was hard on them (and a third said he “didn’t think he was good enough for me”). More recently, can see more clearer how hard I was on these people, but it was for a reason. I mostly just want to keep away all the guys that are not the one and leave room for the one who is.
The main reason is because I’m tired of getting into a situation that for whatever reason is not meant to be. Usually it’s because of unresolved issues with an ex and/or unresolved custody cases.
However, it could be for any number of reasons that a relationship doesn’t work out. Nowadays, I’d personally rather be alone than to be in one more situation where a guy wants to try to hang onto me even though he’s not ready for the kind of relationship I want.
I was hurt way too many times because of all of that. Therefore, if a guy thinks I’m hard on him so be it. I’m not even going to apologize for being hard on guys anymore. They need to learn that women are not just meant to be used-unless those women want to be used and it’s mutual.
If I’m not hard on guys, how else am I going to make sure he’s the one? I’m tired of getting burnt and never want to get burnt again. I’d rather be alone the rest of my life!
Also, if I decide to be alone for awhile hopefully that opens me up to new opportunity. It can make me available for a man who isn’t so flighty for a change.
On the other hand, I don’t really even have to think about this right now. For the first time ever, about eight months ago I met someone who is available for a relationship more than just on the weekends. That’s kind of refreshing after what I’ve been through the past 10 years!
Even if I don’t get married any time soon it is still a relief. I’d still rather be with a person who is up front and honest about his intention (not looking for marriage but wants to be in a steady relationship) than to be with guys who just play games.
And I should clarify what I mean by games: Guys would reel me in like a fish to a bait and then spit me back out into the waters again. In other words, they would entice me and then push me away-a constant see-saw. Usually it was because of all their family issues and drama with exes they couldn’t control. Still, it felt like each one of them was jerking me around when I was with him. One day, I decided had enough. End of blog post-and no more games!