Monday, October 31, 2011

Men and Their Gifts: Not always about Love

This post was originally written on 3/3/2008

Men will all kinds of nice things for a woman such as mover her in, buy her jewelry, and give her money. He will do all those things for her and still know that he doesn't love her.

It is baffling to me. I mean, why can't a man just tell a woman he doesn't want to be with her and then move on? Why can't he just do that? 

Does he think that buying the woman nice things and providing her with a place to stay is going to change her? If so, he is sorely mistaken and he should just be with a woman he wants to be with and he should not try any more to change the ones he doesn't want to be with.

Men, if you don't love the woman you are with then do her a favor. Move on. That is the best gift of all you can give her. 

Chances are she won't put up much of a fuss. She may even be kind enough to not let the door hit you on the way out, if you just stop trying to "buy her affections." 

If you do Decide to Move On, Men!

The worst that could happen in most cases is that the rejected woman may say mean things out of hurt because it is hard to let go of someone you are attached to. (It is especially hard after many years of being together.)

However, after a few days of being upset and hurt she will begin to just move on. It's not that she doesn't love you any more; it's just that most women realize that they do deserve a man that truly loves them for who they are. Most women would rather a man hurt them for the short term so they can have a better life in the long term.

With that in mind, men should know that it is in very bad taste to marry a woman and even to shower her with presents if you don’t love her. Sure, some woman won’t really care because all they want is the presents and the gifts and so on.

However, there truly are women out there who have more self-respect than that. Honest women any ounce of integrity will be able to see past the gifts and the money and will be able to see if a man really loves them or not.

Honest women really care about the men in their lives. Honest woman will say “hey, I don’t want your money, I don’t want your gifts, all I want is you.” 

Now, I realize an honest man can feel rejected when a woman hands him a gift and she is reluctant to accept it. Don’t take it personally, men when that happens. It’s not about you, and it’s not about the gift not being good enough.

Women that do that are often wondering what price they have to pay to receive that gift. They also may be wondering if the gift is given out of their own free will or not. They often are wondering what they have to do for the man once they accept a gift, and it is not necessarily about sex.

Men who buy woman gifts and try to lead her into thinking he might love her or that he does love her is wrong. Well, I think it is wrong unless he actually does love her.