Saturday, November 20, 2010

If he says, "It's not You, It's Me," Believe him, and Move On@


If a guy (or a woman if you are a guy) uses this breakup line, "It's not you its me." Just believe him. It really is him. Even if you have issues that may get in the way of having a successful relationship it really is him.

Either that or if you are a guy and a woman says that to you it really is her. He or she does not want to be with you. Let it go and move on.

Derivatives of and cousins to "It's not you it's me": 

--"Maybe you can find someone better."
--"I am no good for you."
--"You deserve someone who really loves you (although this is the nicer breakup lines of the ones listed)."
--"I don't deserve to marry you (if you are engaged)."
--"I don't deserve you. (The person is most likely right about that!)"

Now, of course you do not want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. However, it can still be frustrating to lose someone you care about. Some of the above lines may sound like trite, lame, cliches, but they are also probably true. 

I just take people at their word and move on. I will find someone who thinks I really am good enough and therefore things he is good enough. Who do people think they are anyway? Can they come up with a better excuse than that?

The only legitimate breakup excuse (besides if the person is extremely lazy or psycho):

"I'm not attracted to you" or "You're not what I am looking for mentally or physically." You can bet that I will leave that guy alone and find someone who is attracted to me. I don't care if he just said it because he was mad at me or scared of me. I have no time for guessing games and if a person says this to me, I just move on.